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Learning to co-parent after divorce

On Behalf of | May 28, 2022 | Child Custody And Visitation

One of the most difficult parts of the divorce aftermath for New Jersey parents with minor children is learning how to co-parent. Even those who end their marriage on good terms can find it hard to divide time between both households without creating hard feelings. While some couples can work out a co-parenting plan without intervention from outside sources, for many it’s helpful to get advice and recommendations from experts. Plus, it’s essential to have all co-parenting terms put into writing in a legal document to prevent problems in the future.  

Things to consider 

Co-parenting successfully means putting the needs of the children above everything else. Children need stability and as much familiarity as possible after such a significant change. Parents must understand that children will need time to adapt to a new schedule, but it’s helpful to keep as many constants as possible. Keeping the kids in the same school and same activities can help them transition to living in one or even two new homes.  

The parenting plan should be clear and thorough. A good parenting plan reveals how the parents will divide major holidays, how and when children are to go from one household to the other, and who will have parenting time during vacations or special family events. Consistency is important so the children know what to expect. Most importantly, a divorced parent should not speak negatively about their ex in front of the kids, and should refrain from putting the children in the middle of disagreements. 

The legal side of co-parenting 

Many parents are understandably worried about learning to co-parent with their soon-to-be ex-spouse. But a thorough co-parenting plan can list all the post-divorce terms regarding custody, schedules, and other concerns.  Parents in New Jersey who are going through a divorce can seek legal advice from an experienced family law attorney. They can help parents navigate the post-divorce process.